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The dance of my social identities

18 Jan


Identities are problematic things on which we fixate and which exert a strong influence on our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. This has been proven scientifically over and over again, yet liberalism continues to harp on about the individual. That is a  story for another day. Today is simply a reflection on my personal social identities and how I relate to them.

I am aware of my various social identities. I choose the ones that I incorporate into my personal identity. I choose how to relate to the rest. I do this consciously so that I can be aware of the subconscious impact of my identities when statements (espoused theories) clashes with my actions (theories-in-use).

Without this commitment and willingness to fearlessly be willing to confront myself, I risk being a pawn playing my unconscious part  in maintaining hegemony.


I choose to integrate my Blackness into my personal identity, because as a South African Black male born at the height of apartheid, it has been core to resistance against one of the most heinous systems of domination, modern humanity has devised.

“To be Black is to acknowledge the heritage of struggle, the ancestors who maintained their dignity under trying circumstances, and fought for their rights.

To be Black is to know that the system of White supremacy and domination has not yet come to an end and requires that we continue what our ancestors began.

To be Black is to stand for social justice.


Yes I am a man, a fact I base on having a penis but I completely, thoroughly and with contempt reject any notion that a third leg, should confer on me power over others (women and men whom I can dominate).

I note also that as Bell Hooks puts it, we live in ”white supremacist capitalist patriarchy” therefore  my assigned dominion is Black women and Black men. Others like Whites occupy a different realm and beyond my place.

I thus choose not to integrate a submissive masculinity into my personal identity.

I choose to have dominion over no-one. I make no claim to deserving respect based on my masculinity.

I pledge to work against patriarchy in all its malevolent forms.


Yes, I am primarily attracted to other men about 95% of the time, with the occasional attraction to a woman. I have heard it defined as homoflex.

I, however, choose not to integrate homosexuality into my identity. My sexual preferences are greatly enjoyable, exquisitely orgasmic and sometimes orgiastic but they place a limited role in my identity.

I note with alarm, the growing trend of homonormativity with its politics of respectability before inclusiveness.


I was born and raised a Catholic. My confirmation name is Thomas and my saint is doubting Thomas the Apostle. The Catholic Church, therefore will claim me as a member for eternity, unless I commit a heinous deed and the Pope excommunicates me. One can dream.

Nowadays I adhere to the Buddhist notion that the existence / non-existence of God is irrelevant. I thus choose not to make an identity out a personal spiritual beliefs. I assert that in this regard, there really is no difference between an Atheist and a member of  religion. They both have made an identity out of their beliefs. The modern Atheists merely add smugness.

I choose freedom.


There is also the terrifying mediocrity of middleclassness, but that is for another day.

This post was inspired by a @fistvoices tweet which said something to the effect of “I am not a man, deal with it’.

These are some of my identities, in the brilliant words of @fistvoices  ‘deal with it’

And while you at it, go forth and narrate yourself